Divorce | Types of Divorce

March 22, 2017
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Couples that seek to break up their marriages with no challenges of litigation often turn to alternative dispute resolution. The following problems, amongst others, are amenable to such settlement strategies:

The Imbalances of Power

Disputants frequently rely on mediators to offset power imbalances between parties. Such imbalances will be minimized, where an attorney is present at a mediation to represent the wife in this type of situation. Mediators often ask the participants, at some stage, to speak directly with each other, frequently as a means of releasing or "to get it all out." Even without lawyers present, mediators who employ proper techniques will continue to have the capacity to neutralize such imbalances. In a collaborative divorce, however, this concern is arguably less distinct since the attorneys are corresponding immediately with each other and act as buffers between complex personalities.

Balances of power are often impacted by attorney representation or the lack thereof. Mediators are not allowed to supply legal advice, but may supply legal information. Therefore, unrepresented parties may be at a disadvantage in a mediation. However, this is not an issue in a collaborative divorce.


Divorce Mediation and Collaborative Divorce

Two forms of alternative dispute resolution models, often used by divorcing couples, include divorce arbitration and collaborative divorce. In divorce mediation, the individuals hire an independent, impartial third party who brings the spouses together to assist them to reach a sufficient divorce resolution. A comparably new form of dispute resolution, in a collaborative divorce, each spouse hires their attorney, without resorting to litigation, and the two lawyers, as well as their clients, negotiate directly with each other.
Collaborative divorce, accessible in the majority of states, is also beginning to establish itself as a successful form of divorce dispute resolution, although divorce mediation has become a popular alternative to litigation. Further, just as the practice of arbitration is not unusual in numerous other areas of law, collaborative law is beginning to be utilized for numerous non-family law disputes, such as company and employment disputes.

Goals may be the same but Different Approaches

The underlying aim of both collaborative divorce and divorce mediation is to allow couples to reach mutually acceptable divorce resolutions in lieu of facing the unpredictable results of judge-imposed conclusions. While both resolution models have proved to work, a couple's decision may impact when deciding which would be most proper.

Motivation to Settle in Collaborative Divorce

One characteristic unique to collaborative divorce is the built-in motivation to settle. Particularly, the dispute proceeds to litigation, along with if the parties are not able to reach a resolution, the attorneys must withdraw from representation. When this occurs, the parties are required to hire new counsel and pay the additional fees.

Also, agreements that include provisions against bad faith dialogs are signed by participants to collaborative divorce. Such deals have a somewhat different impact on the discussion although similar agreements are occasionally signed before mediation sessions, in collaborative divorce. This is in part because lawyers participating in collaborative divorce have dropped, to an extent, much of their adversarial obligations in exchange for a more resolution-driven focus. In contrast, in arbitration, the attorneys may pick to withhold possibly materially important information and don't rely on as heavily the conciliatory nature of the negotiation.

Experts and Their Fee Structures

The overall consensus is that litigation, on average, is more pricey although few comparison studies are conducted with respect to the expenses of collaborative divorce. One study indicates that collaborative divorce fees usually achieve about 1/3 the cost of the typical litigated divorce. When there is a need to employ outside professionals, expenses will increase. For instance, if the attorneys lack the expertise to address a specific problem of the spouse's businesses including the value of one or reach an impasse, a financial expert may be kept for assistance. In a collaborative divorce, the parties typically divide charges and all costs.

Similar to a collaborative divorce, in mediation the parties split the mediator fees. Mediator fees can range extensively, frequently and sometimes exceeding $400 per hour, being as low as $100 to $200 per hour depending upon the complexity of the issues or the type of law involved. Many mediators have separate fee ranges for couples who prefer to schedule the entire time

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FAMILY LAW • DIVORCE • CUSTODY • SUPPORT

Family Law FAQs — Organized by State

These frequently asked questions cover common divorce and family law issues in Missouri and Illinois. Each question is clearly labeled by state so updates remain easy to track over time. This page is general educational information and not legal advice.

Laws and outcomes vary. Talk with an attorney to understand options for your specific facts and jurisdiction.

Divorce Basics

Filing, no-fault rules, timing, and separation requirements—labeled by state.

MISSOURI How do I file for divorce in Missouri?
To file for divorce in Missouri, at least one spouse must have lived in Missouri for 90 days before filing. Divorce cases are filed in the circuit court of the county where either spouse resides.
MISSOURI Is Missouri a no-fault divorce state?
Yes. Missouri is a no-fault state. You do not have to prove adultery, abuse, or wrongdoing—only that the marriage is “irretrievably broken.”
MISSOURI How long does a divorce take in Missouri?
Missouri has a minimum 30-day waiting period, but most divorces take 3–12 months, depending on custody disputes, property issues, and court schedules.
MISSOURI Do I need my spouse’s permission to get divorced?
No. One spouse can file for divorce even if the other objects.
ILLINOIS How do I file for divorce in Illinois?
One spouse must have lived in Illinois for at least 90 days before filing. Cases are filed in the circuit court of the appropriate county.
ILLINOIS Is Illinois a no-fault divorce state?
Yes. Illinois only allows no-fault divorce based on irreconcilable differences.
ILLINOIS How long does a divorce take in Illinois?
Uncontested divorces can be finalized in as little as a few months, while contested cases often take 9–18 months.
ILLINOIS Do we have to be separated before divorcing?
Illinois law presumes irreconcilable differences if spouses have lived apart for 6 months, but the court's no longer require an affidavit of living separately for any length of time.

Property & Finances

Equitable distribution, the house, retirement accounts, and maintenance/alimony.

MISSOURI Is Missouri a community property state?
No. Missouri follows equitable distribution, meaning marital property is divided fairly—not necessarily 50/50.
MISSOURI What counts as marital property in Missouri?
Generally, assets acquired during the marriage—including income, retirement accounts, and real estate—are marital property, regardless of whose name is on them.
MISSOURI Who gets the house in a Missouri divorce?
There’s no automatic rule. Courts consider factors like financial contributions, custody arrangements, and each spouse’s ability to maintain the home.
MISSOURI Will I have to pay spousal maintenance (alimony)?
Possibly. Missouri courts look at need, ability to pay, length of marriage, and earning capacity. Maintenance can be temporary or long-term.
ILLINOIS Is Illinois a community property state?
No. Illinois follows equitable distribution, not automatic 50/50 division.
ILLINOIS What is considered marital property in Illinois?
Most assets and debts acquired during the marriage, regardless of title.
ILLINOIS How are retirement accounts divided?
Often through a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO)—errors here can be extremely expensive.
ILLINOIS Will I receive or pay maintenance (alimony)?
Illinois uses statutory guidelines based on income, marriage length, and financial need, though courts may deviate.

Child Custody & Support

Best-interest standards, parenting time, and how support is calculated.

MISSOURI How is child custody decided in Missouri?
Custody decisions are based on the best interests of the child, considering stability, parental involvement, and the child’s needs.
MISSOURI Does Missouri favor mothers in custody cases?
No. Missouri law is gender-neutral. Courts often favor arrangements that allow frequent and meaningful contact with both parents.
MISSOURI What types of custody exist in Missouri?
  • Legal custody (decision-making)
  • Physical custody (where the child lives)
Both can be joint or sole.
MISSOURI How is child support calculated?
Missouri uses Form 14, which considers income, parenting time, healthcare costs, and childcare expenses.
ILLINOIS Does Illinois still use the term “custody”?
No. Illinois now uses allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time.
ILLINOIS How does Illinois decide parenting time?
Based on the best interests of the child, including stability, cooperation, and each parent’s involvement.
ILLINOIS Can a child choose which parent to live with?
A child’s wishes may be considered, but no child decides custody outright.
ILLINOIS What happens if one parent violates the parenting schedule?
Courts can impose fines, modify parenting time, or hold the parent in contempt.
ILLINOIS How is child support calculated in Illinois?
Illinois may use an income shared model, considering both parents’ income and time with the child based on overnights.
ILLINOIS Does parenting time affect child support?
Yes. Overnights and shared parenting significantly impact calculations.
ILLINOIS Can child support be modified?
Yes, if there’s a substantial change in circumstances (job loss, income change, medical issues).

Special & High-Conflict Issues

Pregnancy, hidden assets, relocation, domestic violence, and enforcement.

MISSOURI Can I get divorced while pregnant in Missouri?
Yes, but courts may delay final custody decisions until after birth.
MISSOURI What if my spouse is hiding assets?
Courts can impose penalties, reopen judgments, and award additional property if concealment is proven.
MISSOURI Can I move out with my children during a divorce?
This can seriously impact custody. Always talk to an attorney before relocating.
MISSOURI Do I need a lawyer for an uncontested divorce?
Legally no—but mistakes can be costly and irreversible, especially with property and custody.
ILLINOIS What if there is domestic violence?
Illinois courts can issue Orders of Protection immediately and prioritize safety.
ILLINOIS Can I move out of state with my child after divorce?
Relocation may require court approval or parental agreement depending upon the mileage involved.
ILLINOIS What if my spouse won’t cooperate?
Courts can compel disclosure, enforce deadlines, and impose sanctions.
ILLINOIS Do I really need a lawyer if we “agree on everything”?
Many people think they agree—until tax consequences, retirement, or future enforcement becomes an issue.

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