Divorce is a serious situation for all individuals and families that are involved. The stories below are meant to take a step back and laugh, cringe, and realize what can go on in a divorce. If you are thinking about a divorce please contact Deborah Besserman, a Madison County and St. Clair County, Illinois divorce lawyer, who also specializes in personal injury law.
Well this will get buried but oh well....not me but my pops is an attorney.
So he is doing this case back in the early 90s. He is representing the wife and the case has been ugly. Both sides were cheating before the divorce, and they guy is pissed that his wife filed since they were both cheating.
So they are doing the case, going to court and mediating who gets the house, cars, money and that bs and the guy is a real asshole about everything. Wife is too my pops says. Just a real ugly divorce.
So it's getting to the boil point and the husband says to my dad and his client "I'm going to kill this bitch and right after I kill her I am going to come kill you" pointing at my dad.
That same night, he went to her house, shot her killing her, and was on his way to our house to I guess kill my dad when he got pulled over, cop thought he was drunk, he was, arrested him for DUI. Later he went to prison for murdering his wife.
I thought that was the craziest one of his divorce stories.
I saw a mother and father live together and fight over the location of the Xbox and WIi. The games were in the family living room. The father took the games from the living room and put them in his bedroom. The children then spent all the time in the father's bedroom. The mother literally went to court to obtain an order that the xbox and WII be returned to the living room. They spent thousands on this.
Divorcee, not a lawyer but I remember the blank stare from the lawyer I was paying $250 an hour to handle my case with my husband when I told him our biggest marital asset was our $10,000 Magic the Gathering card collection.
How much time you got?
God, I'm afraid to post anything too detailed here in case it was recognized... with that In mind, I'll speak broadly...
I'm on my phone, so pardon the mess-ups. Also, I'm going to write in stream of consciousness fashion so as to make grammatical errors less glaring.
As far as craziness, I've seen more than once (but thankfully not too often) parents alleging their spouse committed sex crimes against them or their children, rape/abuse/fondling, etc. This is a "nuclear" option for parties as a lot of times those types of allegations can be life ruining. It is nothing other than the most evil thing one parent could do to another.
I saw a divorce last year between an old guy and a much younger wife wherein their "differences" arose due to her enjoying mischievously sticking a finger up his *********** He protested (I'm paraphrasing a sister case complaint where he also sued her for damages). Despite his protests, she did it again. This happened maybe one or two more times. He became very angry, they separated. They then settled down, talked, ended up having make-up sex... and during which.... You guessed it, she did it again. He filed for divorce and claimed she punctured his colon, he had to have surgery and rehab. And he sued her for damages. (This is rather detailed but I don't care, it's all public record and it's not my case).
I've seen nearly a dozen spouse swaps. I.e. One spouse cheats on his friends wife, it causes a divorce for both parties, and their respective spouses (wife of first party and husband of second) end up getting together. Happens quite often for whatever reason.
A lot of crazy shit lately involves older couples where one of the parties is starting to suffer dementia or Alzheimer's, or both, and/or some terminal illness ( usually older couples). Crazy stories of violence and murderous threats. As an example, "I'm dying, but I'll be damned if you're not coming with me... I'll kill you then I'll kill myself, and we can be done with this damned world!!!" These poor old guys become quite fey when their own mortality is knocking on the door. I've seen a lot of these lately. It's so sad, 40-50 year marriages just crumbling apart at the end.
You see couples destroyed by alcohol, drugs, gambling, and other addictions. Saw a case with a suicide during/ because of the divorce (fricking awful for everyone).
There was a case recently (very wealthy couple) where the husband had cheated over a long marriage but it was never a problem. It was only when, during the most recent affair the wife could not abide, and that was because it was a homosexual affair.
Man, so much horrible awful crap going through my head... I'll try to check back later and add some more.
I'm not a lawyer. But there was a case where a man found out that his wife was having an affair. Heartbroken, he found a lawyer for his divorce, told him the whole story and let his emotions loose on him. In court it was found out that his lawyer was the man his wife was having the affair with. The lawyer got his license taken away for a while and the lawyer defended himself in court on a misconduct case where you can read about him questioning the client
Not a divorce lawyer but a child of divorce. Happened when I was about six or seven, am eighteen now. I learnt this about a year ago.
My mother often likes to talk about how my father didn't offer any financial assistance during the divorce and his involvement was purely selfish, and a common thing she's told me is that he's never paid for my schooling, which is true post divorce. However, what I learnt was that during the divorce he offered to pay for half of all of my school fees. She instead chose child support, which he has paid for every year.
She also took all of their combined savings out and into my (six years old at the time) bank account, which my father had no access to. This meant when showing bank statements, my father had more money than my mother.
Ive lost some respect for her since then.
After college I worked in a Law Firm dealing with family law and have a ton of stories: 1) At one time we had almost a dozen cases of high military personnel going through divorces because their wives came out of the closet after all their children grew up. 2) We had a client who was wealthy, but going through a divorce cause she was going crazy. She dressed like a homeless person, smelled like shit, and once I delivered a copy of her husband's discover to her and her house looked like a dump. I literally thought she was gonna kill me and bury me under the piles and piles of crap in her place. She also kept harassing her husband and his girlfriend, vandalizing the car, writing whore on the door of the condo, etc. We had to drop her as a client after she kept disobeying her attorney, etc. 3) We had a wealthy client who married a girl he met during tango classes and they had a child. He spent over half a million fighting for custody and she kept accusing him of sexual abusing their daughter, to try and win, etc. Each side hired psychologists and experts and in the end, it didn't matter if it wasn't the truth, the mother kept telling the girl she was abused and the experts said it was gonna damage her regardless. He eventually won partial custody. After two years of working there, I realized I didn't want to be a lawyer and I don't want to get married, haha.